Being a single woman, you’re always faced with the infamous question: “So why are you single?” So I took the time out to once and for all explain, so men will understand why single women are single and so women will no longer have to answer this very common, yet very annoying question.
When assessing your attraction to someone, there are three contributing elements:
1) 33% is PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, which includes but is not limited to: one’s facial appearance, body, weight, height, style, smile, physical health, and how one dresses.
2) 33% is PERSONALITY, which includes but is not limited to: one’s mentality, cognition, behavior, communication, sense of humor, wit, and intelligence.
3) 33% FINANCIAL STABILITY, which includes but is not limited to one’s socioeconomic status, education, career, ambitions, debt, income, and outcome.
The remaining 1% equals the doubt….the feeling that something is missing. It’s symbolism for the fact that no one will ever be 100% satisfied in a relationship. You just have to learn to work with what you have. So to those looking to be 100% satisfied….Just do yourself a favor and settle for 99% or else you’ll be seeking for perfection, something that doesn’t exist because there will always be temptation, curiosity, doubt, and the desire for more.
However, the problem is that these days a lot of females can’t even find 99%. It seems guys now only come in 2/3 packages…meaning you’ll rarely find a man who meets all of the requirements physically, personality-wise, and financially.
You’ll either:
1) Find a guy who’s attractive and has an appealing personality…but he’s broke as hell and seems to have nothing going for himself.
2) Find a guy who’s attractive and does meet the financial requirements, but he’s either an overly cocky, arrogant, self-absorbed asshole or he’s just a boring, lame, cornball who doesn’t offer any excitement or passion whatsoever.
3) Find a guy who has a great personality and is financially stable but he’s not at all physically appealing, cant dress for shit, and has no swag/style about him at all.
You RARELY find all three in ONE MAN, and when you are lucky enough to come across ‘the exception’….he’s already taken. So that leaves a girl like me that has the whole package (looks, personality, & financial stability), with three options: Settle for 66%….settle with being a side-chick….or remain single.
So fellas, from now on, instead of asking a woman why she’s single, just look at the guys around you and what they really have to offer…..and you’ll see…..why she’s single.
Love this post!!! I would say, I "settle" for 80% since I don't care too much about the physical. If you are financially stable, have a personality that interests me, and are somewhat attractive then I'm all game!!! This must be why I am always in a relationship...
ReplyDeleteOkay Resa, I see yeah! 99% is alittle too much, I think your setting the bar too high. I agree with J Demi, 80% is more realistic. I believe you have 4 aspects of a person and it varies from person to person. I'll give you my importance. 35% physical, 25% mental/social, 25% spiritual and 15% financial. Some people might be 50%/30%/0%/20%. It all depends what your main focus is. But it should match what you have to offer. I work out and take care of myself so I want my woman to be beautiful to my standards. I can carry on a good conversation which is hard for most men to do, and we all know that most women love to talk, so we almost will never be on the same level in that aspect. I don't go clubbing/partying that much when I'm in a relationship, of course i'm taking her out but I never want her to feel that my friends or certain things are more important then her. So, someone who always has to be out and always around friends wouldn't work for me. Spritually is simple, either you believe in God or you don't and as long as you don't try to change my view then we are cool. And last is financially, I can provide the basics for both of us. I would perfer a woman with good credit and her own income, but I won't hold it against her, as long as she is trying to do better. So, from my aspect if a woman is single is because she either has really bad luck or her standards are too high. I do believe that a man will find his mate and not the other way around. And the devil would make it seem like the perfect person is taken, but just because they seem like the perfect person in their current relationship, doesn't mean that your personality and lifestyle will bring out the same thing in that person. Also, we forget that people are suppose to bring out the best in the other person, so if they are attractive and intelligent but just doesn't have the income you desire, maybe you can put them in a better financial situation by getting them a modeling gig or an extra in a movie. How about furthering their education. I'm pretty sure if they have things going for them and the intiative then it will pay off in the end. But this is just my 2 cents.
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