Being a single woman, you’re always faced with the infamous question: “So why are you single?” So I took the time out to once and for all explain, so men will understand why single women are single and so women will no longer have to answer this very common, yet very annoying question.
When assessing your attraction to someone, there are three contributing elements:
1) 33% is PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, which includes but is not limited to: one’s facial appearance, body, weight, height, style, smile, physical health, and how one dresses.
2) 33% is PERSONALITY, which includes but is not limited to: one’s mentality, cognition, behavior, communication, sense of humor, wit, and intelligence.
3) 33% FINANCIAL STABILITY, which includes but is not limited to one’s socioeconomic status, education, career, ambitions, debt, income, and outcome.
The remaining 1% equals the doubt….the feeling that something is missing. It’s symbolism for the fact that no one will ever be 100% satisfied in a relationship. You just have to learn to work with what you have. So to those looking to be 100% satisfied….Just do yourself a favor and settle for 99% or else you’ll be seeking for perfection, something that doesn’t exist because there will always be temptation, curiosity, doubt, and the desire for more.
However, the problem is that these days a lot of females can’t even find 99%. It seems guys now only come in 2/3 packages…meaning you’ll rarely find a man who meets all of the requirements physically, personality-wise, and financially.
You’ll either:
1) Find a guy who’s attractive and has an appealing personality…but he’s broke as hell and seems to have nothing going for himself.
2) Find a guy who’s attractive and does meet the financial requirements, but he’s either an overly cocky, arrogant, self-absorbed asshole or he’s just a boring, lame, cornball who doesn’t offer any excitement or passion whatsoever.
3) Find a guy who has a great personality and is financially stable but he’s not at all physically appealing, cant dress for shit, and has no swag/style about him at all.
You RARELY find all three in ONE MAN, and when you are lucky enough to come across ‘the exception’….he’s already taken. So that leaves a girl like me that has the whole package (looks, personality, & financial stability), with three options: Settle for 66%….settle with being a side-chick….or remain single.
So fellas, from now on, instead of asking a woman why she’s single, just look at the guys around you and what they really have to offer…..and you’ll see…..why she’s single.
